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Day 60: Learning to Unlearn

"The greatest prison we live in is the fear of what other people think." - Baz Lutz

Let me tell you something. We're walking around carrying more baggage than a budget airline during peak season, and most of it isn't even our own. It's the hand-me-down trauma, beliefs, and "brules" (bullshit rules, for the uninitiated) that our parents, grandparents, and entire ancestral lineage have packed neatly into our psychological suitcase. Cheers, family!

The Invisible Chains: What Vishen Taught Me About Brules

Vishen Lakhiani, that cheeky mind-hacker from Mindvalley, talks about "brules" like they're these invisible monsters living in our mental closet. Remember when your gran told you that "real success means working a 9-to-5 job" or your dad insisted that "men don't cry"? Yep, those are brules. Pesky little belief systems that have zero scientific backing but somehow managed to become your life's operating manual.

Proverbs 13:20 says, "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm." But what if the 'wise' people are inadvertently passing down generational nonsense?

The Science of Stuck: What Research Says

Dr. Bruce Lipton (yes, him again with his mind-blowing cellular biology insights) discovered something wild. Our beliefs are essentially programs downloaded before we're seven years old. Seven! Most of us are running decade-old software that's never been updated. Imagine still using Windows 95 and wondering why your computer is failing to run Microsoft office 365 lol.

A study in the Journal of Traumatology found that generational trauma can literally change gene expression. Let that sink in. The fears, limitations, and unprocessed emotions of your great-grandparents could be swimming around in your DNA right now. Not a pleasant thought, eh?

The Mythical Perspective: Breaking Generational Curses

Let's get a bit mystical. In many ancient traditions, breaking generational patterns is seen as a sacred act of healing. The Native Americans have a concept of "seven generations healing", the idea that when you heal yourself, you heal seven generations before and after you.

Think about that for a moment. You're not just healing yourself. You're potentially rewriting the entire script for your family line.

How to Actually Unlearn

  1. Awareness is Your Superpower Catch yourself when you're repeating phrases or behaviours that don't align with who you want to be. That moment of pause? Pure gold.
  2. Question Everything Just because something was true for your parents doesn't mean it's true for you. Curiosity didn't just kill the cat; it liberated the human. Mhm...................
  3. Meditation and Mindfulness Dr. Caroline Leaf's research shows that 16 minutes of targeted mind management can start rewiring neural pathways. Sixteen minutes! You spend more time scrolling through TikTok.

The Final Word

Your generational patterns are not your destiny. They're just a starting point. You're not bound by the limitations of those who came before you. You're here to evolve, to break cycles, to be the wild card in your family's narrative. Being a progressively productive person (ppp).

We unlearn, we grow, we become. Because This is What We Do Now!


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