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Day 16: The Spark of Change

 


The "Aha!" Moment: When Your Soul Screams "PLOT TWIST!"

Picture this: You're cruising along, living your best life (or at least, what you thought was your best life). You've got your routine down pat, your comfort zone is perfectly padded, and then BAM! Life throws you a curveball. Maybe it's a job loss, a breakup, a global pandemic (been there, done that, got the commemorative mask, sanitised my hands more than I can count, almost sanitised my brain too, whatever that means). Suddenly, the ground beneath you shifts, and you're staring into the abyss of the unknown. 

Or maybe it's not a dramatic event. Maybe it's a slow burn, a nagging feeling that something's just... off. Like you're wearing shoes that are half a size too small. You keep going, because hey, at least you're wearing shoes, right? But that discomfort, that subtle pressure, it builds and builds until one day you scream, "I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE! I NEED NEW SHOES! (Or maybe a whole new wardrobe, while we're at it!)"

That, my friend, is the "aha!" moment. The moment your soul throws its hands up and yells, "ENOUGH! Time for a change!" It's the catalyst that sets the wheels in motion, the spark that ignites the fire of transformation. (Okay, I'll stop with the dramatic metaphors now. Maybe.)

Fear of the Unknown: The Monster Under the Bed (That Might Be Wearing Your Face)

Change is scary. It's like stepping off a cliff without knowing if there's a safety net below. (Or maybe it's more like jumping into a pool without knowing if it's filled with water or pudding. Either way, it's unsettling.) Our brains are wired to crave certainty and predictability. The unknown? Not so much. I'm pretty sure it's also one of the major reasons why most people are afraid of dying, besides the fact that you are leaving loved ones behind, it's is the not knowing that is really scary.

Fear whispers doubts in our ears, and that doubt whispers fear: "What if I fail? What if I make things worse? What if I end up with pudding in my ears?" (Okay, maybe that last one is just me.) It conjures up images of worst-case scenarios, playing them on repeat like a broken record. (A record of doom! With extra doom!)

But here's the thing: fear is a liar. (Or at least, a master exaggerator.) It magnifies risks, distorts reality, it cripples and disables, keeping us trapped in our comfort zones. As the wise Nelson Mandela once said, "Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it." 

I read somewhere, I don't remember where now, if I do I will come back and update this. The fact that you feel afraid, you feel fear consuming you whole actually means that there is nothing to be afraid of. Because 90% the time we feel fear it's either fear based on the thought of an undesirable outcome such as failure or humiliation, or based on an undesirable memory of the past more like a 'it's happening again moment de ja vu'. This all means that there actually isn't any danger in the now, hence nothing to be afraid of.



Values and Goals: Your Inner Compass and Your North Star

Before you embark on any journey, you need to know where you're going. (Unless you're one of those "it's about the journey, not the destination" people. In which case, feel free to wander aimlessly. I'll be over here with my map and compass.)

Identifying your values is like setting your internal compass. What truly matters to you? What principles guide your decisions? Is it honesty, kindness, adventure, creativity? Once you know your values, you can set goals that align with them. Your goals are your North Star, guiding you towards the life you want to create. They should be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound. (SMART goals, baby! It's a thing. Google it.)

King Solomon says, "Where there is no vision, the people perish." (Proverbs 29:18) Okay, maybe "perish" is a bit dramatic. But without a clear sense of direction, it's easy to get lost, discouraged, or sidetracked and yea that is perishing because instead of living your best life, your best life leaves you.

So, take some time to reflect on your values and goals. Write them down, create a vision board, or shout them from the rooftops.

In Conclusion (Because Every Good Story Needs an Ending)

The spark of change can be ignited by a sudden event or a gradual realisation. Fear will try to hold you back, but courage and self-belief will propel you forward. And with a clear understanding of your values and goals, you can navigate the journey with purpose and direction. 

Now go forth and change the world! (Or at least, change your shoes. Baby steps, people.)

Because This Is What We Do Now.

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